Your personal point of view. What do YOU really think about underage alcohol and drug use? Could your own experiences get in the way? Are you prepared to listen to your teen's point of view?

Your motives. What are you really trying to achieve? Are you trying to protect your kids from what's out there or give them the skills they need to make smart decisions?

Your fears or concerns. Are you focused on reacting to one incident or creating a lasting solution?

Your ability to be a role model. Will your personal actions reinforce the messages you're giving your teen?