Listen to their answers. When you start a conversation, be open to all your child's answers. It's important that kids feel they can give an honest opinion rather than what they think you want to hear.
Establish a culture of care. Let them know you are there for them and that you care about their experiences at home and at school.
Build a trusting relationship. While you are still an authority figure, preteens need to know you are also someone they can trust. Listening shows you value their ideas and can be trusted to hear them out without rushing to judgment.
Let them know you are there for them...